ABOUT

MY STORY

I’ve spent most of my life learning how to disappear in plain sight.

As a kid, I was always on the edge of belonging—rarely chosen, barely noticed. I remember being the lowest on the social totem pole in my friend group, clinging to whatever scraps of attention I could get. When I moved to Canada at eight, that ache only deepened. I didn’t just feel lonely—I felt unlovable. I didn’t know how to belong. I didn’t know if I was allowed to.

So I adapted.
I became what people needed me to be. I got good at reading the room, at performing, at making others comfortable—even when it meant silencing myself. For years, I built a whole life around being liked. But under the surface, I felt deeply unseen. I knew people loved the version of me I was presenting—but that version was a mask.

The truth? I was terrified that if people saw the real me, they’d walk away.

That fear led me into choices I’m not proud of.
The breaking point came while I was cheating on my wife—an act so far removed from the life I thought I’d live, from the honesty I once longed for in marriage, that I could barely recognize myself.
That moment shattered the illusion.
I realized I couldn’t keep living this lie and expect trust—from others, or from myself.

It was time to press the reset button.
To come back to truth.
To rebuild a life from integrity—not image.

Healing didn’t come in a single moment.
It came through slow, quiet choices: practicing radical honesty with myself first, and then with others.
Even when it cost me reputation.
Even when it cost me community.
Even when it cost me relationships I cherished.

I started attending a 12-step group called CoDA for codependency.
I devoured words from voices like Esther Perel and Brené Brown.
And brick by brick, I started constructing a life where I didn’t have to hide anymore.

Because the thought of getting to the end of my life and realizing no one really knew me…
That terrified me more than anything.

And now?
Now I build spaces for others to take that same journey.

Uber Bintegers was born out of my own ache to be known—not just liked.
Out of the pain of feeling like a prisoner to other people’s expectations.
And out of the slow, liberating realization that freedom starts with telling the truth—especially to yourself.

This isn’t just my story.
It’s the silent story of so many others who’ve never had the language to say it out loud.
People who feel trapped in lives that look “fine” but feel hollow.
People who are exhausted by the weight of who they’re pretending to be.
People who are terrified of being seen, but even more afraid of never being seen at all.

This is who I do it for.

Nothing makes me feel more alive than watching someone finally drop the mask.
Than seeing them choose courage over comfort.
Than watching them return home to themselves.

If that’s you—if you’re ready to stop hiding, stop performing, and start living in alignment with the truth of who you are…

You’re not alone.
And you don’t have to figure it out on your own anymore.
This is where the journey back to yourself begins.